I’ve been wanting to write a blog post pertaining to this issue for a while now, but I don’t want people to see this as a “pity me” piece or even a “woe is me” post. It is what it is, everyone needs to STOP JUDGING OVERWEIGHT PEOPLE. And I don’t just mean the judgements you pass between friends or behind our backs. Those are awful, just the same. But what I’ve been experiencing A LOT lately, even with close friends and family, are the snide, ignorant comments that go along with pre-conceived assumptions or sterotypes. You might think you’re saying something in jest or say that we need to be less sensitive and get over it. Why should you have to think before you speak? BECAUSE YOU DO. Everyone does. Saying “if you can catch me” to someone like me isn’t the same funny joke as it is to an average-sized person. Don’t be an ass and say something like that shouldn’t hurt my feelings because you’re NOT me, and you do not get to make that judgement. Who are you to say what should or should not offend me? If you look at me like I’m lying through my teeth when I say I’m a picky eater because obviously I must eat everything because I’m not a size two, yeah I’m going to be offended!
Assuming things about ANYONE just makes an ASS out of you. PCOS, Diabeties, Thyroid issues, metabolic disorders, etc. …they ALL affect a person’s ability or non-ability to lose weight, so before you make an ass out of yourself, THINK before you speak. Even if people are overweight due to overeating and inactivity, that does not mean they deserve ridicule and judgement. You probably have SO many things people could judge you for, so just be nice because karma’s a bitch and it will bite you in the ass. The biggest judgement comes in the end, and which side would you want to be on? Yeah, that’s what I thought. Be nice.
With millions of charities to choose from and causes to support, I’ve often been asked why I spend so much time working toward Bullying Prevention. My friends have varying opinions and not all think bullying is as big of an issue as people make it out to be. But you know, chances are the people who don’t think it’s an issue, aren’t the ones who spent their life being bullied. And for those of you who do wonder why I chose bullying over endangered species, starving children or saving the whales, here’s why.
It all comes down to PCOS, as always. Because doctors didn’t diagnose me until I was in my 20s, I spent my childhood/teenage/young adult years overweight and continued to gain weight every year no matter how much I exercised or didn’t eat. You know, bullies don’t ask questions about why you are the way you are because, quite frankly, they just don’t care. They’re too busy being insecure about their lives to care about how they’re affecting people with their actions and words. So, no, my bullies never asked if I had a genetic condition making me overweight, they just continued to severely torment me every day. And I know people get bullied for A LOT more reasons than just being overweight, so don’t think I’m demeaning anyone’s bullying experience at all. This is just my story. I’ve chosen to become an activist for bullying prevention because people should not have to grow up like did. Every day I wished to be thin, I prayed, I went as far as trying to believe in magic so that one day I could wake up and be thin. Constantly thinking about your faults because bullies remind you of them every day is no way to go through life. I’ve heard the opinion of “bullying is a part of the growing up process” so many times, and every time I want to punch that person in the face. Did you know that bullying is the leading cause of teenage suicide? Saying bullying is a part of growing up is saying suicide is a part of growing up. Having that opinion just shows ignorance. I’ve had way too many families around me experience suicide, one family experiencing it is too many. Bullying (& suicide) prevention is just as worthy of a cause to support as any, and if you disagree, show me one positive outcome to bullying that absolutely cannot be disputed. It’s a cause worth getting behind, so if you’re interested in jumping on the bandwagon, let me know. I will be posting events you can get involved with and organizations who need some support.
And I’m not alone. Here’s an examples of a girl dealing with Bullying related to her PCOS symptoms: Click Here
Also, here’s a discussion board of people asking for advice on handling PCOS-related bullying: Click Here
Again, thanks for reading!
Hey! Thanks for taking a look around the new & improved blog of me, Alex Boles! For all of you who do not know me, I am, in fact, a female. My mom named me Alex because she already had 3 girls and desperately wanted a boy…thanks, mom. 😉
This is not going to be one of those “this is how many calories I ate and how many pounds I’ve lost” blogs. This also won’t be one of those “these are my problems, feel sorry for me” blogs, either. I plan on making this blog more of a discussion for and with people living with Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome, trying to combat the growing issue of traditional and cyber-bullying, and to share my current and future endeavours within the entertainment industry.
I’m not going to tell you what I ate, how many miles I walked every day or who I would have dinner with if given the chance. I want to be able to share informative articles and interesting non-profit organizations or events and express myself when necessary. If you have PCOS, are trying to combat bullying where you are, or are, like me, trying to figure out your place in the entertainment industry and would like to provide some advice or ask any questions, leave me a comment here or on Twitter.
I will soon post my personal journey to the [BIO] page above, so you can understand me a little more, but until then, if you have any questions, don’t hesitate to speak up. Thanks for reading! Stay tuned.